I find it hard to hold my tongue when I see injustice to people around me. I probably can keep my peace, but it irks me how people get away with just playing the perpetual victim, or simply, because they often get away with things cos people give in to them, even when they don’t deserve such privilege.
I do remember months ago, I have a friend who did something not right, and another friend said, “You know how she is, just let it be, we are her friends, what can we do but to let it go, right?”
The friend got away without even a smack on the wrist, and went on to think her righteousness was justified, cos no one disagreed. It fuelled her loud blabs on calling someone else names and stick untrue stories to make someone else look bad, when I know for a fact those things didn’t happen.
Unfortunately, someone else was someone I do know personally, and respect, just that on a personal intimacy level, my acquaintancy with someone else does not supersede a relatively long friendship.
I know of someone who would jump out and protect each and everyone of her friends, and she is like a mother hen, fiercely protecting her chicks.
I always see people around her, and I feel that people are very fortunate to have a friend like her, because of her fierce loyalty to her friends, and you know she is someone who always have your back. Even when your house needs cleaning, or when you are sprung with a bowl of homemade chicken soup, just because she thinks you need it.
Alas, not everyone would think it is a good thing, because many people have pride, and they would prefer to fend for themselves and not let someone else do the dirty job. And there will be people who will be cautious, probably because of the other people they have met along the way who acted protective not because they are truly protective friends, but because these friends wanna hog the drama to themselves and create a bigger script it already has.
But humans do take sides, that’s what it is. Sometimes it is clearer, sometimes it is just by sheer faith and blindness, sometimes it is just, friends, but sometimes it is just…. injustice that prompted words.
And regardless what it may be, I do always feel thankful for the fact that people who had came into my life, seldom mince their words around me, and always put me back in place. For that, I really, really, do appreciate.
I don’t like it when things are said about my friends. I don’t like it when things that aren’t true are said about people who are not even close friends. I don’t even like it when untruths are spun about people am neutral to.
I don’t know how to put it, call it a hunch, call it a fast dissection of characters, or call it protective instinct.
It is like if someone says something about your sister, your mum or your wife or girlfriend, you know the “qi” that flows up to you?
Sometimes some people, however sweet looking, nice and dainty they are, they can trigger such a reaction in you, just like how you can’t put a finger on what is wrong with the equation which is seemingly… nothing wrong.
Funny how this topic started today with a phone call from 6am, with a toyboy on the phone for 3 and half hours, and then we touched on topic from anything from A to Z (and even a plan to just scoot away for a week or so, but I might be charged for abducting an underaged boy hahaha), but then eventually, it went on to human nature.
In fact, it was hilarious cos the usually polished speech of his, became peppered with words I am better acquainted with (The Story of the Polished Nuts, I was told), and the wise one here and the young one were discussing about the art of nonchalance and the theory of karma (which honestly not a theory we believe in) and how all things, shall pass.
Of course, if I do say this, there is always a chance that I might risk sounding double standard about things, cos hey, c’mon, we all make mistakes along the way.
But trust me, I was just surprised when the topic was brought up, and could just giggle at the irony of it all.
You know when we see injustice, we will tend to make a comment, and then we move on after hoping to putting things in place, just that, sometimes, when people’s hearts are not open, it becomes a thorn in the flesh and people do not move on from there, because they believe people have “turn against them“.
And in the absolute rule of the book “Your world is MY world (and it shall spin and revolve around me)”, if you don’t let this species of people get their ways or be agreeable to them, you are in their book of death, probably for a long long time, even if you have long forgotten about them.
You see, me writing this, a few people might think it is about them, because that’s the secondary rule in the book (#2 – Everything is about ME!), but I am writing about a stranger and at the same time, a close friend (see above for the mention of the friend who got away), whom I think had went too far, and I might risk incurring their wrath so much that I might be cursed to become a frog because I said something they might not want to hear.
CROAKKK!
Remember, their rules are the LAW? Cos they had practically being given the luxury of getting away with almost anything, IF you not feeding their insecurities mean, uh oh, it translated to: you have committed a grave sin; because you guys have spoilt them enough that they cannot handle NOT getting their ways.
Or maybe, their acts have brought them far enough to get what they want, and when their acts fail to pull the wools over the unblinded, they panic, and fluster.
However, I am fully aware that it is measurable by our own yardstick of morals and what’s right and wrong, th0ugh sometimes there is an obvious, and some other times, people just say things for the benefits of themselves.
Like the friend who says others are riding the drama, hmm, is she ownself not? Maybe not, cos she is speaking up for a friend. That, I give it to her, cos maybe she forget other people have true friends.
And definition of gorgeous? Something I know a person who slashed someone’s Gucci bag when incensed by jealousy can never be, sniggers. And yes, Rach may be someone I do not know well, but what people around her and around you reflected about you guys, you can never be as gorgeous as Rach that way.
On a side note.
I saw something that happened today between people I do know, and I didn’t like it. Not liking it in the sense that it makes me very uncomfortable.
There are knights on horses whom I failed to see on other occasions, and I have seen broken hearted men saying words of irrationality, which are not new because there are countless girls whom have said the same thing way before his time and got away with. But here’s the difference: he is a guy, and he gets beaten up harshly for it.
I don’t see you jumping out protecting the other people when they are at the receiving end? In fact, all I saw was you trying to fuel if situation is reversal.
Careful if you fall from that horse, it is gonna be very painful from that height.
Emotions often run high, I understand. Excuses can always be found for the other people you know, especially friends. Sometimes, you need a bit of patience to extend that grace to people beyond that.
And it is base on the incident I make this comment, and nothing personal. In the same breath, even if I don’t agree with what you have said and done, I might still speak up for you if same thing happens to you.
All people need, is that bit of understanding, sometimes. Especially a friend in need.
But if you do not have the kind of sensitivity for others, no one would spare any for you either. To give you the benefit of doubt, maybe it was tough love to ask someone who is down and out to grow a pair, but no one did say anything when everyone tried to hide for you when you do not have a pair to let someone know where you were during Lunar New Year. Small things need a pair already, big things, how?
All I am saying, is the grace and leeway for people around you.
Though there will be people who acted not on emotional irrationality, but simply on manipulation and pride… who probably do not deserve any respect, yet sometimes… people will rather side the latter than former.
Okay. Just random thoughts, and my thoughts are with those who aren’t feeling too great and hope they pull thru this time soon.
Yawns.
Just an auntie here watching too much drama series and not very pleased to see my friends being treated shabbily with words and all and feeling this perpetual need to speak a word or two, just cos my weakness is not able to hold my tongue very well.
If this post does get your feathers ruffled, just to let you know I will have my mind on my fishes, my dinner, and my next blog post (wah!!!), my next read and pondering which movie to watch tonight, and you will be there stamping your feet with your breaths quicken and teeth gritted, when in fact, I may not be talking about you at all.
*Beams SQ smile*
It is a bit out of tune for me to post this, but sometimes the tension needs to be diffused, and what better way than to present you the one with the magnetic draw…
Oh yes, that’s my name alright. 
