Yesterday, I received a couple of requests for the passwords after I had locked a couple of entries.
When I was over at blogspot, I had to censor some of my thoughts, simply because I didn’t have a password-lock function to do so.
And because of that, I would either write it elsewhere, or just to let those thoughts pass, to slip away into oblivion as much as I would love to have jotted them down.
And I eagerly looked forward to my wordpress, because now, I could lock up my posts.
But I didn’t anticipate the hassles that would follow.
I mean, I was amused when I saw some people trying hard to crack the code by trying different combinations of passwords 30 times(oh yes, I have a very efficient statcounter), or trying different means like typing in the direct html of the comments link, hoping it would do some magic.
Sure, that is understandable and pretty expected since people are always roused by curiosity, especially things that are there, but not allowed access.. somewhat like a Pandora’s box.
Yesterday, the oddest thing that happened, was one that came in during my work hours.
Correct me if I am wrong. I didn’t quite get the message, but I declined to give the password because there was a reason for the posts to be private. I wasn’t harsh, but was jovial because I had sought understanding for that.
The reply I had, I perceived it wasn’t to be friendly, took me by slight surprise, because I didn’t quite make sense of it.
It was along the line of our friendship had started because of blog, and if that is what I am going to do, then it says something and there’s no point to it anymore. It ended with take care, and cheers, as if it was a goodbye.
I was really stumped.
Honestly, I just want to say that there is not much secrecy to the contents hidden in them, and if they were to leaked out, so be it.
But there are just some stuff, is what I wouldn’t have written in blogspot, due to one reason or another. That means, I still have a bulk of entries(except for 2) which are opened to all, and it doesn’t change this.
So I don’t know how just 2 locked posts could affect a friendship.
And blogging, is not an accountability to all of you who are reading, since I have always said I am blogging for myself, just that this is a public medium, and I have to watch what I say because people are like that, they do respond emotionally, and they do judge, postively and negatively.
For me, it is just a record of events, thoughts and emotions. Off the top of my head. I don’t need remedies, I don’t need judgements. But of course, I love it when people do share their own accounts and thoughts.
Here I want you guys to consider this…
If I went out with a friend, and she knows that I blog, but she doesn’t like to be seen or known publicly on my blog, and she wants me to keep it private and not post her pictures on the blog, or blog about her problems.
But yet, if those things struck a chord within me, I would feel a need to be writing, to be reflecting.
Thus, as much as I would like to write, I couldn’t because it wouldn’t be fair to her, and it would be breaking my promise to her, no?
Now, with the password function, I thought I could be liberated of that burden.
I could chew on my own thoughts, with or without her knowing, or that the post would be just solely for her eyes only.
And yup, the posts will only be opened to people who are involved, because I will be accountable not only to myself, but someone else.
And because of that promise made, I would not give out the password.
If the post is of general private thoughts closest to my heart, then, it will be up to me to see how comfortable I am to be giving the password away, or my perceived YOUR comfort level to read with open minds.
Thus, password is no longer an exclusivity nor privilege.
For the 2 posts, one of which(Now tell me..), I did give the passwords to people who are involved.
And despite it being locked, I was asked to do some amendments after the person in question raised certain objections with regards to the said person’s privacy.
Out of that respect, I have to.
And.. really, I seek your understanding.
I will be locking some work-related posts in the future, and I definitely will be giving the passwords out then, alright?
Because, the easier way out, is to hold the words and thoughts captive like I did. And the easier way, would perhaps, say, to delete them?
what statscounter do you use? it sounds v. gd!
hmz..i guess thats were u are correct dear..we may ask but its up to u if u wana give..heh..and of coz..as readers..we shld respect ur privacy..and tats y..some of my blog entries are locked and also only viewed by certain ppl only…i guess..it brings us to the pt that there are some stuff we juz wana write down and vent it out..hugz dear..dun make urself unhappy over this..=)
on a 2nd note..i missed the free cone day!!BOO HOO!!!i am so sad!!sighz..need to wait for next year’s one..ahahah…and hows the little one?is she teething already??
frankly, some personal thoughts are better off being locked anyway. i cant imagine offending someone u know for no reason, jus because of what u wrote truthfully.
i do not have your password, though a pity…but what’s the big deal? haha…
btw, next year if u do go for the free cone day again, do donate to Amazing Kidz…yesterday was this charity’s second year working together with ben n jerry’s…raising funds for brain injured children…
You mentioned meeting Sheron after many years of being friends and you didnt even mention meeting me!!!!!! I’m so hurt lor… T.T I thought I meant something to you…. YOu changed already you.
i’m using wordpress too, but my stat counter doesnt show THAT much detail! =O ur stat counter really does sounds good!
Man – really sorry to hear about the crap you been getting – don’t sweat it. You’re entitled to keep private anything you want to.
I think the counter being used is http://www.statcounter.com by the way. (looked at the page source)
Well, if that person considers herself a friend, then she should understand a friend’s need for privacy and not resort to emotional blackmail to try to extract the password.
Personally, I think one is better off without such a toxic friend…
u have evry right to lock them up n yes, somethings are better left private.
some friends are more sensitive & take it upon friendship when you refuse them entry to your most private thoughts.
people come & go… and those who are your true friends will not be so petty enough to forsake friendship so easily.
take it easy, babe :S
hey..been reading ur blog for some time..no..i don’t know u..just that my friend recommend me to ur blog..great writing..and i think most ppl will understand the password part..it’s ur choice anyway
Well Lemonie, i thought you needed your privacy…… thus i did not attempt to break your code.. =) sometimes we need to learn to respect other’s decision.. I’m still learning..=)
c: statcounter!(thats the name)
sharlene: actually the privacy is sometimes concerned others, and i feel that even if I would like it to be public, the other parties might not like it that way.
Oh lil one has been teething since 2 mths plus~!
angel: thats the irony. Write offend. Lock offend. Don’t lock also offend. so maybe, i shudnt be writing and just let the thoughts float.
Umapoke: I did!
u know.. now those children’s charity jus feel very close to heart 
thanks for understanding dear. it is jus that i might risk kena silenced if i let rip the password.
clarclar darling.. u might not believe but i did draft an entry about meeting u at IT show(which is together with my IT show post which … has been delayed and sitting somewhere in my blogger draft). Trust me.. u bery bery bery the important.
justine: heh, i just happened to decipher the pattern and made a guess.. it is not that mighty, but good enuff!
anon: itis jus that a fren said that i am building walls and hiding behind a facade and it is tiresome. but then, i am building it not for myself, but for people involved too.
yl, mei and enqi and jem: I can see where he is coming from, but jus that i think sometiems walls are built not for our own, but for others who need them too.
thanks u guys for understanding and u guys said it best.
Talk about privacy, guess you are not applying privacy or fairness to me, who was likely the most generous to you, especially since we do not really know each other. Not quite me to address this kind of stuff, but trust these guys to make judgements when they do not know what transpired; must have taken quite alot of imagination to conjure up a scene of blackmail. By the way, if you remember correctly, I did not mentioned hiding behind a facade